We, at this point, do not plan to have children. (An entry on this coming soon). So the question of ‘when’ we will have one is a bit probing.

I am sure some people do not mean any harm when they ask you if you’re going to have more children…perhaps they are just making small talk. But if anyone knows what you went through with all the fertility stuff, I would hope they are sensitive enough to not ask you that. I’m sorry that you get questions like that…I have no doubt you handle yourself with grace when they come along.

I’m really happy for you that you have your beautiful daughter and you and Jake were able to have the child you wanted. You guys are really blessed.

My sister had an extremely rough time getting pg (5 failed IVF’s and the last one - JACKPOT - she now has triplets, doh!) and I have had countless friends go down the same path, at least to one point or another.

What I’ve learned though through the years is to be kind, think before you speak and be as open/honest as you can….

Mostly though I just end up feeling like an ass.

I’m still so incredibly happy for your family & little Bridget.

I really don’t think people understand unless they’ve gone through it all, or know someone who did. And I think our generation is much better about it than our parents’. Even though I don’t have any problems that I know of, after just three months of trying I keep getting upset when family members (especially on my husband’s side) keep bugging us about when we’re going to have a baby. We haven’t told them we’re trying, because then they’d just ask if I were pregnant yet, and go on with the insensitive things you point out above.

Argh. I just need to quit while I’m ahead. Can you tell I’m totally PMS-ish today, and pissed about it?

Although that would be funny as hell.

I’m totally using your comments to rant oblivously because I’m so damn tired.

But yes, the pain, I don’t think it ever goes away. We’re 99.9999999999% sure we’re done (the Meester would say without batting an eye that we’re 100% done, but you know, I don’t like to finalize that, even though in my heart of hearts, I doubt we’ll do it again from so many aspects), it still makes me flinch to see people who get pregnant easily and I find that it’s more of a rage within me more than anything. Maybe because I know that if we did decide to do it again, I’m like you, I doubt it’ll happen naturally. And what pisses me off more, is that people always have to pipe up about their cousin’s, friend’s roomate’s sister’s daughter, who went through 87 rounds of in vitro, had a kid and then went on to have four more naturally. We all know someone like that, but I don’t need to hear it from someone else’s piehole. Not everyone is that lucky.

Weeeeell, that felt more odd that it might should (I can say “might should” - I’m Texan, damnit) to call myself Auntie Sarah. I don’t ever expect to have Bridget call me that or hope to cause any confusion about family relations. But since I’ll only ever get to be a real-live Auntie if C’s sister and her husband have some crazy babies (I guarantee they’ll be crazy), I’ve decided that I get to be Auntie Sarah to Bridget.

i’m holding my breath…hoping against hope that it works.
i don’t ovulate either…haha.

damn ovaries.